When it comes to our health, or anything we decide to do, sometimes the hardest part is dealing with the people whose opinion means the most to us–and sometimes dealing with people whose opinion is not that important but still affects us.
Let me work backwards from least important to most important in relation to people’s opinions.
There are strangers and acquaintances that we encounter in life that look at us–and make a snap judgement.
What is that judgement? It really depends on what lens of the world they are looking at you through. Honor yourself–regardless what they may be thinking.
Then there are our closer acquaintances and “friends.” These people know a little more about you–perhaps because you come in contact with them more often–but don’t really know you know you. They make judgments about us based on how we dress, act, speak, react etc.
We think about what they may think about us if we did something out of the norm of their belief systems about us–which let’s admit–is pretty narrow.
I know we think about these people because we care about ourselves and want to be perceived a certain way–whatever that may mean to you, and that makes it important but we still should honor ourselves.
Then come our real friends–the people we care about and that care about us–at least we think they do. Their opinions rank a little higher on the “I wonder what they think of me” scale.
And the most important group is, of course, our closest and dearest family and friends whose opinion–for better or for worse–drive our decisions.
These two groups of people make it harder.
I am not going to say we should just forget everyone and do what we want, because the reality of life is that we DO THINK ABOUT IT and it DOES AFFECT US.
So how do we honor ourselves, our wants and desires? This is not easy, especially when we want to make big life changes like a change in the way we eat and approach exercise.
Many times what is holding us back from big transformative life loving change is that we are afraid to lose our relationships with others. And that is hugely important–but we have to honor ourselves first.
When you decide to change what you eat, or how often to exercise to feel better, to look better, to get over a disease or condition–it will affect everything in your life–especially your relationships.
Our relationships are going to change and sometimes it is going to hurt. People you thought were with you were only with you as long as you were like them.
People you thought would cheer you on just want to tear you down. People you thought were in your life out of love and acceptance will turn their back on you the minute you don’t conform with the pigeon hole they have placed you in.
Still you should honor yourself.
So, I am not going to say “What other people think does not matter” because that would not be the truth. It does matter or we would all be in different places in our lives by now.
What I will say is that you should do it anyway.
Better your health, reach for your goals and your desires for a physical and internally healthy self.
The people that are meant to support you will be there and the others will fade away. It will hurt sometimes but in the end you will be healthier, surrounded by those that contribute to that health and you will be so much happier!
Honor yourself–you are worth it! And have fun every step of the way!