Your Story

Your Story

Our pasts define us. For good or not. Each one of us holds knowledge of our lives that no one else knows about, sometimes inconsequential things that do not matter to others, but make us each unique.

It is our story. The one we have written in our heads about who we are, where we are in life, and how we ended up here.

It is fascinating to listen to others describe their lot in life and how they are continuing to perpetuate those things they say they are against.

Politicians do this everyday. Exploiting every detail of their lives, real or imagined, that they can to appeal to others…to obtain a vote.

It is their story.

Our friends and family members do this also. Reworking stories until they fit into their needs at the time.

Their story.

Looking into your past is good, if you can do so as an objective observer. If you can accept it as the reality that it is and understand that our past does not have to be our future.

Life and time is very forgiving. Each day we have the opportunity to change, to turn over a new leaf, to begin again.

A chance to change your story.

Dwelling on the past and using it as an excuse not to move forward is what holds back most people.

They spend their lives and their energy in holding grudges over perceived wrongs, in finding ways to exact revenge or in creating havoc in other people’s lives.

Trying to change other people’s story.

These people do not understand why they don’t move forward. They are stuck. Hypocrites, absurd and sad.

But today is a new day, and you can use your past as a learning tool to propel yourself forward.

Use your past experience to be the best you, you can be today. Enjoy the present. And the future will take care of itself.

Don’t let your story hold you back.

Imagine

Imagine

Imagine what life would be like if no one ever encouraged you, worried about you or cared enough to protect you from the world or from yourself.

I can’t imagine it because from the moment I was born and most likely before the blessed event, I was loved.

I have been cared for and encouraged. I was educated, not just with school books, but lessons of how to behave, cope, treat others and respect myself.

That meant that I was disciplined, or corrected by not just my parents but my aunts and uncles and grandparents. Even my older cousins educated me and even though they were not much older than myself I respected them…as my younger cousins respected me.

Today’s millennials complain about being unloved, disrespected and disinterested in everything that does not have their instant gratification at the forefront.

It is hard to comprehend. Especially since many were raised with encouragement, love and caring.

The difference I believe is in society. Most notably in schools. Over the last 30 to 40 years the schools have been teaching children the opposite of the responsibilities and values taught at home.

Children have grown up thinking they don’t have to do the right thing, just appear to be doing the right thing.

They were taught that doing something wrong is not wrong until you get caught. And if caught the lesson was not about the bad deed but on how to not get caught in the future.

Parents who teach their children values and hold them accountable have been criticized as being harsh and unfeeling.

Children have been given mixed messages for almost 2 generations now.

The result is we have created a whole society that feels they are entitled to everything: jobs, trophies, degrees, love, and acceptance simply by the virtue of them being alive.

There are few young adults today that got through the school and societal indoctrination to become responsible hard working and compassionate people.

Regardless of what was taught at home.

Imagine how different our world would be with more defined rights and wrongs. Where children were loved and supported yes, but educated in such a way that respect for themselves and others was not lost.

Just imagine.

What I Know For Sure

What I Know For Sure

I just recently finished reading Oprah Winfrey’s book “What I Know For Sure” and was surprised by how many of her thoughts mirrored my own.

Now, I do not agree with Ms. Winfrey’s politics but Oprah has been a strong voice in my head for most of my life.

I watched Oprah when I was a young girl and she was on WGN News in Chicago. When she later became a talk show host on her own show I was a devoted follower.

I always enjoyed her show, her compassion for people and her celebration of people just for being who they were.

Oprah has a rare gift of asking the right questions and being brave enough to respectfully ask the tough questions of people, situations and of herself.

In her book, Oprah describes many things she has discovered over the years and things she has come to accept about herself and life in general.

The book resonated with me because as we get older most of us realize very clearly who we are, what we want from life and how we got to the point we are in.

Like Oprah I am grateful for this journey of my life and am looking forward to what is to come.

So what I know for sure…is how very lucky I have been to live in this country during this time surrounded by the people that have shaped my life.

A good book I would recommend to empty nesters and beyond.

Thank you Ms. Winfrey for your voice all these years!

Losing Track of Time

Time flies when your having fun…or seen another way, when we lose track of time it means we are content, engaged and dare I say…happy!

That is what happened to me this weekend. I lost track of time. And it was wonderful.

After working all week my husband and I took a short trip “home”. While we live in a new city now and love it, there is always a wonderful feeling when we go home.

At home, we spent time with family especially my sister and her kids who are growing so fast. I enjoyed my parents and got to spend time with one of the daughters that has flown the nest.

I marvel at how independent we all are now and at the same time so dependent on each other–in good way.

As I mentioned, the trip was short because on Sunday we were on our way back, enjoying the beautiful day and the open road and the calm and quiet of our empty nest that not too long ago I was dreading having.

What threw me off was I had Monday off for Martin Luther King Jr. Day. (Thank you Dr. King!). I took the day slowly and did my chores and enjoyed a relaxing day. I was at peace in our daily routine…

And I lost track of time…

I forgot today was Tuesday, beginning the work week. I missed posting my self imposed scheduled post this morning.

So I am saving that one for Thursday to share this message with you…strive from time to time to lose track of time.

The time that is past we can never get back–how wonderful when it passes us in joy!!

Time Management

Time Management

Time management is one of the hardest skills to develop.

But it is a skill that if mastered will help you accomplish more of the goals you are aiming for.

Many times we have challenges in managing our time because we underestimate the time a project or task will take and because we allow other things to distract and interrupt us.

Here are a few tips that help me manage my time and make the most of every day.

  1. Prioritize your tasks. Making a list of the many things to do will not help you if you don’t indicate in some way which tasks are the most important to complete. Make your list and number it.
  2. Remove distractions. Turn off your phone or the television and complete tasks in an environment conducive to the task at hand.
  3. Complete all important tasks first. Concentrating on one important task at a time and working on it until it is finished before moving on to the next will help you stay focused.
  4. Give yourself the appropriate amount of time for each task. Underestimating the amount of time a task will take and not giving yourself the appropriate amount of time can be self defeating.

Set yourself up for success when managing your time and you will find your tasks and goals will be easier to achieve!

The Time is Yours!

The Time is Yours!

Do you ever wonder what is holding you back?  The reason I hear most often from colleagues and friends is time.

There is never enough time to get all the things done that need to get done.  The end of each day comes too quickly and there are too many things left to do that did not get accomplished.

So people stay up late, run to Wal-mart at 9 o’clock at night, run around trying to make up for the lost time in the day and to get ahead on the next.

The result is that many  people are run down, frazzled and frustrated. And then we get up the next morning, after too little sleep and do it all over again.

What is holding these people back? What is holding you back?

It is not time that is holding us back. Each one of us has the same 24 hours a day that everyone else has.  Why are some people so efficient and happy and accomplished?

It is very simple…and you can already tell what I am going to say. They are organized and have their priorities straight. They do not squander their time. And they value their health, their peace of mind and their priorities.

In the next few blog posts I will examine and revisit some golden ideas on time management, priorities and values. Stay tuned!

For today, I invite you to examine your day and your life. We are half way through January already and many of us have already given up on our plans and resolutions to get organized, get it together, and do things differently this year to get out from under the time crunch that rules our fast paced run around life.

Think about the time wasters in our day–losing track of time in the shower, talking to co-workers around the water cooler, making unnecessary trips to the store, allowing others to dominate our time by volunteering us for tasks that should belong to others.

Then think about the things that are really important to you in your life–the things that provide you with the quality of life you desire and deserve.  And get ready for some life changing ideas to help you take advantage of each day.

The time is yours–make the most of it.

Our Growing Capabilities

Our Growing Capabilities

This time we live in, like never before, provides a new definition of progress.

Progress used to mean to move forward or to advance, as in making things better.

But in this fast paced run around world we live in the definition has begun to change.

Progress, for some, has come to mean that we are not moving forward or we can’t move forward without the assistance of others.

And as the definition has been changing, we as Americans, have given up our capabilities.

That is by design, of course, by those who wish to control the masses.

The masses, are merely a collection of yous and mes. They are groups of people that have believed the story that we “can’t” do or be everything we are capable of being.

Yet if you stop to pay attention and look around our capabilities as humans continues to grow.

In my short 50 years on this earth, for example, we have gone from a box with a dial on the wall as a form of communication to a mini computer that fits in our pocket and that can communicate with people around the world. That was progress.

That progress was made because people refused to believe that their capabilities were insufficient, that through hard work and perseverance progress is made.

With every advance our capabilities grow and we can continue to reach new heights.

In this new year, stretch yourself, don’t buy into the idea that in order to have progress we must give up our capabilities, our ideas, our work ethic, or our values.

Continue to feed your growing capabilities day by day…and enjoy the progress and advances you will make.

Find your path, it is waiting for you.