Making Safety a Priority

Making Safety a Priority

Every day in every way there are bad things happening to people and good things happening to people.

How can you determine which group of people you are in, is entirely in your power.

Here are some common sense tips to ensure your safety:

  • Do not involve yourself in dangerous behaviors.

Drinking and driving, using drugs, or hanging out with people who do will put you in situations that will compromise your safety.

  • Don’t go out late at night unless it is absolutely necessary.

Crime rates rise as soon as the sun goes down. The cover of darkness seems to help criminals hide their crimes. There is no need to make a trip to Walmart or the gas station after 9:00 pm at night.

  • Take caution with your personal belongings.

Keep your car and home locked at all times. Don’t leave valuables in your car–even in front of your home. Secure important papers with personal information in a safe place.

  • Make good choices.

Most of us know the difference between right and wrong. Always chose tondo the right thing in all situations. If you are unsure what is right and wrong–take no action until you can figure it out.

  • Ask for help.

If you find yourself in a dangerous situation–call for help. The police and the fire departments are specifically trained to help us stay safe in our society. If someone is hurt call for an ambulance.

  • Protect yourself from others

Stay away from people who are not safe, who engage in dangerous behavior or who you know are making bad choices in their lives, regardless of who they are. Friends and family who are dangerous or are associating with dangerous people will only bring those dangerous situations to you.

Today, life is becoming more dangerous, it is up to each of us to create a safe space for ourselves. You have the power of choice. Choose the right path and your safety will be ensured.

Make your safety a priority.

Dr.Seuss Under Attack

Dr.Seuss Under Attack

I remember loving Dr. Seuss books as a child and loved reading them to my children when they were little.

Hop on Pop, Green Eggs and Ham and The Cat in the Hat being among the favorites.

Just last week, local newscasts reported on local schools around the nation celebrating Dr. Seuss Day. High school students visited elementary schools to read to the younger students.

And today, we hear that Dr. Seuss is a racist.

Because…according to leftest academia…less than 2% of characters in Dr. Seuss are persons of color.

I am truly speechless. Dr. Seuss books are iconic stories and gk of our nation’s cultural fabric. They are books that are fantastical and make reading fun for early readers.

But the left has been striving to destroy everything that unites people in America in any way: prayer in school, statues of historical people of our American past, the Ten Commandments in front of courthouses, Christopher Columbus, John Wayne and now a beloved children’s author: Dr. Seuss!

Now I know my generation and the previous generation are not going to let go of Dr. Seuss.

Hopefully my children’s generation, to whom we read our favorite Dr. Seuss books will not let go of it either… but slowly these millennials and the kids behind them will embrace the ridiculous idea that Dr. Seuss was a racist and his books are poison to the next generation…

But wait—these are the same kids that are being told the world is going to end in 12 years and they should choose not to have children anyway!

Sorry folks, this is the same ridiculousness that is creating the Green New Deal! And of course that will not work! Instead of the Green New Deal, let’s embrace Green Eggs and Ham instead:

Say! I like green eggs and ham!
I do! I like them, Sam-I-Am!
And I would eat them in a boat.
And I would eat them with a goat…
And I will eat them, in the rain.
And in the dark. And on a train.
And in a car. And in a tree.
They are so good, so good, you see!
So I will eat them in a box.
And I will eat them with a fox.
And I will eat them in a house.
And I will eat them with a mouse.
And I will eat them here and there.
Say! I will eat them anywhere!
I do so like green eggs and ham!
Thank you! Thank you, Sam-I-Am.

Getting It Together

Getting It Together

Recently many people have told me they are working on getting it together.

It’s a funny phrase. What are they getting together? And once ‘it’ is together what are they going to do with ‘it’?

I am assuming–because I haven’t really asked anyone–that by it they mean their lives.

I assume this because a few have told me I have ‘it’ together. I didn’t think they were talking about my hair.

Apparently many people seem to be working on getting their lives together because they feel they don’t have it together.

These are my thoughts on that:

  • No one really has it together because life is ever changing.
  • Just when you think everything is perfect and right, life will throw you a curveball.
  • If you had everything in life together and you had no changes, you would be bored.
  • It’s really about your attitude towards life and not your aptitude to get life together.
  • Gratitude towards what is going right is better than worrying about what could go wrong.

So relax, enjoy all the parts of your together and not so together life.

When we are gone no one is going to remember us for how well we had it together but for how much we enjoyed life and those around us!

Your Story

Your Story

Our pasts define us. For good or not. Each one of us holds knowledge of our lives that no one else knows about, sometimes inconsequential things that do not matter to others, but make us each unique.

It is our story. The one we have written in our heads about who we are, where we are in life, and how we ended up here.

It is fascinating to listen to others describe their lot in life and how they are continuing to perpetuate those things they say they are against.

Politicians do this everyday. Exploiting every detail of their lives, real or imagined, that they can to appeal to others…to obtain a vote.

It is their story.

Our friends and family members do this also. Reworking stories until they fit into their needs at the time.

Their story.

Looking into your past is good, if you can do so as an objective observer. If you can accept it as the reality that it is and understand that our past does not have to be our future.

Life and time is very forgiving. Each day we have the opportunity to change, to turn over a new leaf, to begin again.

A chance to change your story.

Dwelling on the past and using it as an excuse not to move forward is what holds back most people.

They spend their lives and their energy in holding grudges over perceived wrongs, in finding ways to exact revenge or in creating havoc in other people’s lives.

Trying to change other people’s story.

These people do not understand why they don’t move forward. They are stuck. Hypocrites, absurd and sad.

But today is a new day, and you can use your past as a learning tool to propel yourself forward.

Use your past experience to be the best you, you can be today. Enjoy the present. And the future will take care of itself.

Don’t let your story hold you back.

Setting Up Your Year

Setting Up Your Year

Before I set my intentions for this new year–I thought it would be important to chose a guiding principle for the year.

Some people refer to it as ‘your word for the year’ that will serve as a umbrella for all you intend to accomplish.

A guiding principle is not the ‘what’ you want to accomplish this year but the ‘how’ you want to pursue your ‘what’.

Here are a few good questions to ask yourself to come up with your guiding principle:

  1. How can your attitude help you reach the goals you are thinking of achieving this year?
  2. How will you find happiness as you work towards your goals?
  3. How will you implement your daily intentions to move you forward step by step?

I thought about this long and hard to be able to keep the momentum from last year into this one.

I found that I had the most success reaching goals when I kept things simple and used common sense to guide me through the difficult or confusing times.

So I chose two guiding principles for 2019: simplicity and prudence.

Simplicity, of course, means doing things in the easiest way possible. That sometimes takes a little thinking and planning time.

Simplicity does not necessarily mean fast–remember that trying to do something quickly often results in having to do double work because we decided to cut corners.

And prudence means to do things with caution and care and forethought. So again good planning to avoid making things harder than it needs to be.

We live in a fast paced, run around, world. But it doesn’t always have to be this way.

Give yourself some time to develop your ‘How’, write it down where you can see it every day, and use your how as your guidepost for 2019.

There are endless opportunities and possibilities to help you reach your goals. Set yourself up for success!

Almost The New Year

Almost The New Year

The Christmas holidays have passed and the New Year is looming close.

It has been exactly one year since I began this blog and I started writing it for many reasons.

One reason is that I was looking for a creative outlet and I love to write.

Another was to share with other empty nesters that life does not end when the children become independent and move out–it is just a new phase of life.

But this blog has developed into more than that.

Along the way, these last twelve months I lightened my load and learned a few things myself.

I decluttered my life and home (although I’ve learned this is an ongoing process) of things I did not need, papers that were no longer useful and in a few instances people that were toxic.

I’ve lost weight, became a certified health coach and am living a healthier lifestyle with good foods, lots of water and exercise.

I gained more space in my house, my heart and my mind. I’ve gained more time and in many instances more peace.

I’ve gained-even more importantly-a great deal of perspective of what is truly important to me and my family.

2018 has been kind to me, but mostly because I have been kind to myself.

I am standing strong in my conviction that if something is not healthy for me-physically, emotionally or spiritually- then it doesn’t need to be in my life.

I am grateful for everyday of this year, even the difficult ones, and I am grateful for the people I share my life with–some close and some far–that have made this year so special.

In a few days we will raise a glass and toast the year that has passed and usher in a new one–

May 2019 bring us all more of the good, less of the bad and the strength and opportunity to continue our journeys.

I hope you all have a Happy New Year!

Vision Boards for Finding Clarity

Vision Boards for Finding Clarity

A long time ago, I started creating visions boards….in the 80’s, when I was in high school, I would comb through magazines and cut out pictures of things I liked, places I wanted to go, ideas for future adventures.  I would stick all these pictures on a poster board I would hang in my room.

I cannot tell you where I learned to make them or the fact that it is a form of positive thinking and manifesting, and setting goals for your life.

Like most teenagers my boards centered around–well me.  They didn’t necessarily have any specific goals in mind and were certainly market driven–based on the magazines I chose, but they did help clarify what I wanted out of life.

If I remember correctly some of the things I put on those boards were definately expensive (I remember having a fondness for diamonds) and I would need to have a college degree in order to achieve them.

Did that goal manifest itself?  It did.  I did, thankfully, attend and finish college successfully and been able, over time, to have all the I’ve wanted (although now I am not too impressed by diamonds anymore.)

The boards also helped solidify my values–because on them I have always placed pictures that represented family, work, God, service and country.

I’m a nerd like that–and I have always been blessed to have these strong foundations in my life, because I sought them out–at least my brain did.

In college I made vision boards too, and throughout my life as an adult.  I have even shared this little goal setting craft with my girls.  And I hope it helps them focus on what they want as well.

It used to  surprise me when something on my boards would manifest itself in my life–although it really should not have surprised me at all.  These were things that I had on my mind and the mind is so much stronger than we know.

Now that I am older–I still make them on a smaller scale, using a 12 x 12 sheet of scrapbook paper and the pictures I print at home after collecting visual images of my ideas from the internet.

I have my vision boards where I can see them daily.  And while our hurry up run around life may not allow for study of the boards–our mind’s eye sees them and goes to work.

The clarity they provide is one of honing in on the things that are really important in your life.

Now, I am not sure how it works, but I do know that it does work. I am not a scientist and cannot break down the steps the brain takes to create the vibrations from this visualization exercise to in turn create the energy in you and the world to make things happen.

But I do know this. Our brain, once it has clarity, subconsciously will lead us in the right path.  It will tell us when to turn right instead of left to find those things, events, people, and circumstances that we are meant to interact with.

When we don’t have clarity–in our lives–there are moments when things are unorganized, in chaos, and indistinct. Bad things happen to us.  We have a car accident, we make a bad financial decision, we come in contact with people who mean to do us harm. And things seem to be out of control.

Even in a world that is out of control–look at the people it does not affect.  Is it because those people are better, smarter or richer?  Or is it because they practice positivity in their lives regardless of the insanity around them?

Imagine if everyone created vision boards–and were able to create their positive energy that could mix with other people’s positive energy.  What would our world look like?  It would certainly be a different place.

My thoughts today, as I watch the chaos in the world on the news, is that they are manifesting exactly what the talking heads see in their mind’s eye. Their lives are in turmoil and it shows in their broadcasts.  Long time politicians are losing their foothold because the negativity itself is bringing them to their knees. People are being used because they cannot visualize a different way and are vulnerable to the suggestions of others, of promises that will not come true.

Each one of us is responsible for our energy–vision boards are one way–to clarify and direct that energy for good.