Getting It Together

Getting It Together

Recently many people have told me they are working on getting it together.

It’s a funny phrase. What are they getting together? And once ‘it’ is together what are they going to do with ‘it’?

I am assuming–because I haven’t really asked anyone–that by it they mean their lives.

I assume this because a few have told me I have ‘it’ together. I didn’t think they were talking about my hair.

Apparently many people seem to be working on getting their lives together because they feel they don’t have it together.

These are my thoughts on that:

  • No one really has it together because life is ever changing.
  • Just when you think everything is perfect and right, life will throw you a curveball.
  • If you had everything in life together and you had no changes, you would be bored.
  • It’s really about your attitude towards life and not your aptitude to get life together.
  • Gratitude towards what is going right is better than worrying about what could go wrong.

So relax, enjoy all the parts of your together and not so together life.

When we are gone no one is going to remember us for how well we had it together but for how much we enjoyed life and those around us!

Our Growing Capabilities

Our Growing Capabilities

This time we live in, like never before, provides a new definition of progress.

Progress used to mean to move forward or to advance, as in making things better.

But in this fast paced run around world we live in the definition has begun to change.

Progress, for some, has come to mean that we are not moving forward or we can’t move forward without the assistance of others.

And as the definition has been changing, we as Americans, have given up our capabilities.

That is by design, of course, by those who wish to control the masses.

The masses, are merely a collection of yous and mes. They are groups of people that have believed the story that we “can’t” do or be everything we are capable of being.

Yet if you stop to pay attention and look around our capabilities as humans continues to grow.

In my short 50 years on this earth, for example, we have gone from a box with a dial on the wall as a form of communication to a mini computer that fits in our pocket and that can communicate with people around the world. That was progress.

That progress was made because people refused to believe that their capabilities were insufficient, that through hard work and perseverance progress is made.

With every advance our capabilities grow and we can continue to reach new heights.

In this new year, stretch yourself, don’t buy into the idea that in order to have progress we must give up our capabilities, our ideas, our work ethic, or our values.

Continue to feed your growing capabilities day by day…and enjoy the progress and advances you will make.

Find your path, it is waiting for you.

Release The Power of Your Intentions

Release The Power of Your Intentions

The new year is all about starting with a clean slate, setting goals for the year and looking forward to all the opportunities before us.

Soon though, all our good intentions go off by the wayside and we fall back into the same routines. Goals we were so excited about are pushed to the back burner to simmer for another 12 months.

Why does this happen?

I think it is because we get caught up in other people’s intentions and we lose focus on our own.

Or we want to reach too many goals too fast and when it becomes difficult we give in to the old ways.

But the power is always within us to reach any goal we want, if we go about it the right way.

The right way is different for everyone. So I am not going to pretend I have the magic formula for that.

What I will say is that each one of us should not give away the power of our intentions by spending all our time walking around our goals instead of moving directly to them.

Here are a few pointers:

  1. Set your goal and set a time frame to reach it.
  2. Break your goal down into manageable steps you will need to take to reach your goal.
  3. If your steps are too big break them down further. (Remember some steps may take several days, weeks or months to achieve!)
  4. Set a daily intention that will move you towards that 1st step.
  5. Once you accomplish your first milestone, set a daily intention that will move you towards that 2nd step and so on.
  6. Make sure your daily intention is always moving you forward towards the steps for your goal.

The last point is the most critical. If your daily intention is not moving you forward then why is that your intention?

Do not be afraid to succeed! This is your year of forward momentum–you just have to release the power of your intention!

Setting Up Your Year

Setting Up Your Year

Before I set my intentions for this new year–I thought it would be important to chose a guiding principle for the year.

Some people refer to it as ‘your word for the year’ that will serve as a umbrella for all you intend to accomplish.

A guiding principle is not the ‘what’ you want to accomplish this year but the ‘how’ you want to pursue your ‘what’.

Here are a few good questions to ask yourself to come up with your guiding principle:

  1. How can your attitude help you reach the goals you are thinking of achieving this year?
  2. How will you find happiness as you work towards your goals?
  3. How will you implement your daily intentions to move you forward step by step?

I thought about this long and hard to be able to keep the momentum from last year into this one.

I found that I had the most success reaching goals when I kept things simple and used common sense to guide me through the difficult or confusing times.

So I chose two guiding principles for 2019: simplicity and prudence.

Simplicity, of course, means doing things in the easiest way possible. That sometimes takes a little thinking and planning time.

Simplicity does not necessarily mean fast–remember that trying to do something quickly often results in having to do double work because we decided to cut corners.

And prudence means to do things with caution and care and forethought. So again good planning to avoid making things harder than it needs to be.

We live in a fast paced, run around, world. But it doesn’t always have to be this way.

Give yourself some time to develop your ‘How’, write it down where you can see it every day, and use your how as your guidepost for 2019.

There are endless opportunities and possibilities to help you reach your goals. Set yourself up for success!

How To Master 2019

How To Master 2019

Happy New Year! This will not be a post about New Years Resolutions.

If you made some resolutions, great! If you didn’t, it’s ok because you can resolve to do anything you want any day of the year–it’s all good.

I met all my resolutions last year but only because I was ready to make the changes I did. And that is the key.

You have to want it. And you have to set your intentions every day towards your goals.

So here is how to master 2019:

  1. Know exactly what you want. If you don’t know what that is–that is not confusion about your life, that is fear. You know what you want…it’s right inside of you.
  1. Confront the fear. If you are afraid to fail or to let someone down you need to get over it. If you don’t confront what is holding you back you cannot move forward.
  1. Set your intention every day. Intend, in writing and out loud, what you are going to do today to get you one step closer to your goal. This is a marathon not a sprint.

That’s it. It really is easy to take these steps. Keep it simple.

That does not mean that everyday will be easy, but it does mean that whatever life throws at you this year-you will keep moving forward.

The new year gives us new opportunities and a mental fresh start–make the most of it! And make 2019 your year–master it!

A Year In Review

A Year In Review

Now that we are in the second half of December I have taken some time to think about 2018.

The year seemed to go by so quickly–as we’ve all gone about our busy run around lives.

I am grateful for this year and the promise of another. Grateful for all of those around me-family and friends-that share our lives.

Some are close by while others are far away but still impact our lives and the people we are on a daily basis.

It is easier sometimes to reflect as we get older on our lives, on the impact many people have had on us and the impact we have on others.

Sometimes the people who impact us we’ve never met in person and sometimes there are people very close to our hearts.

The closing of this year is a time to celebrate our blessings and a time to also grieve for those who have left us physically but that will always be with us–in some fashion by the way they touched our lives.

Just the day before yesterday we lost Penny Marshall, actress and one of the first female directors. The beautiful Laverne from the Laverne and Shirley show.

We have lost other icons like Margot Kidder (Lois Lane), Charlotte Rae (Mrs. Garrett), Robin Leach (from Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous), and Burt Reynolds (Smokey and the Bandit).

These characters lived with us through TV and molded our thoughts, our fantasies of our lives, and our sense of humor.

Others that impacted our lives and society are also gone–Billy Graham, Barbara Bush and months later her husband, George H.W. Bush. They leave us with their patriotism, their service and their great love of God and country.

Some that impacted me personally are Linda Brown-who was the center of the Supreme Court case Brown v. Board of Education that overturned the ‘separate but equal’ ruling that helped end segregation.

Aretha Franklin, who helped me come of age with songs like ‘Respect’ , ‘Think’, and a ‘Natural Woman’.

Stan Lee, who fed my imagination with his superheroes and Marvel comics, always in a fight between good and evil in which good wins out in the end.

There are closer hits to the heart. A few family friends that molded us in our early years and we have fond memories of. And an aunt that shared my blood and beautiful memories of family with me that I will never forget and always cherish.

We leave all these behind in the history of this year and we will forever carry them forward with us as we continue to travel through our time.

Most of all, as we close 2018, we should remember how every part of us came from a part of others who touched our lives and how we continue to touch the lives of others.

Be kind, be honest and be grateful in these last days of the year and carry the memories with you into the next.

A Little Caffeine

A Little Caffeine

Each morning when I prepare my cup of hot tea, I use the time as a moment of reflection.

Sometimes I think about the tasks to complete on that day or I review in my mind events from the previous day.

Many times I use this time to think about events in the past and how those events have influenced where we are now in life.

Everything has a correlation.

The little jolt of caffeine from my tea also helps my brain wake up and see the connections.

It is important to take stock of ourselves, our thoughts, our actions, our goals and dreams.

It’s like making a grocery list that we can check off and use to remind us of what we need and what we don’t.

If you have a hard time collecting your thoughts about the multitudes of things we are responsible for or would like to accomplish — using your tea (or coffee) time is the best place to start.

  1. Brew your favorite tea or coffee.
  1. Use cups you like to drink from-something that is uniquely you.
  1. Breathe deeply and relax.
  1. Focus on the warmth of your cup and let your mind wake up to your thoughts.
  1. Listen to what your mind is telling you.
  1. Practice directing your thoughts to the things you are grateful for.
  1. Allow your thoughts to flow freely but be conscious of when you need to redirect your reflection back to positive things about your past, present or future.

It does take a little practice to train your brain to direct itself to some positive reflection but over time you will find that it helps to order your day and your future goals.

The added benefit of a little caffeine gets your brain activated and firing on your synapses and can many times help you see things more clearly.

All from a few minutes over a lovely cup of tea.

Enjoy your day!