Goals Reached

Goals Reached

When I first started this blog it was to meet head on some life goals I wanted to reach.

My main goal was to be a published writer.

Another was to conquer my fear of all the new technology that continues to evolve in our world.

And yet another was to find a place where my thoughts and hopes and dreams were relevant. Especially as I was facing the Empty Nest and the end of my job as an active everyday parent.

I think one of the biggest fears we have as we grow older is that no one will need us anymore. I have discovered in these last 18 months that that will never be true.

My kids will always need me and I will always need them just like I will and still need my parents, and husband and sister and everyone important in my life. And the new generation, with the birth of our first grandchild, will continue the cycle.

And so I have come full circle–so this will be my last post on this blog. Although I doubt it will be the last time I write–now that I am a published writer!

Goals reached are a closing of one door and the opening of another where new goals live to be reached someday…

In my next incarnation I think I will be more active politically to help preserve this country I love so much…although I will continue to work hard to reach our goals of retirement, travel and family.

I have to say I owe this whole journey to one person that has always supported me, encouraged me, argued with me and made me stronger by making me think.

A person who always motivated me to pursue my goals, however difficult or improbable and no matter what the odds. This person also picked me up when I would fall and would spur me on to keep moving forward in my life.

It is because of this person that I reach my goals and continue making new ones.

And he has always been my biggest fan!

So while this is my last post on Empty Nest Savvy, it is certainly not the last goal I plan to reach…

Thanks Dad!

Making Safety a Priority

Making Safety a Priority

Every day in every way there are bad things happening to people and good things happening to people.

How can you determine which group of people you are in, is entirely in your power.

Here are some common sense tips to ensure your safety:

  • Do not involve yourself in dangerous behaviors.

Drinking and driving, using drugs, or hanging out with people who do will put you in situations that will compromise your safety.

  • Don’t go out late at night unless it is absolutely necessary.

Crime rates rise as soon as the sun goes down. The cover of darkness seems to help criminals hide their crimes. There is no need to make a trip to Walmart or the gas station after 9:00 pm at night.

  • Take caution with your personal belongings.

Keep your car and home locked at all times. Don’t leave valuables in your car–even in front of your home. Secure important papers with personal information in a safe place.

  • Make good choices.

Most of us know the difference between right and wrong. Always chose tondo the right thing in all situations. If you are unsure what is right and wrong–take no action until you can figure it out.

  • Ask for help.

If you find yourself in a dangerous situation–call for help. The police and the fire departments are specifically trained to help us stay safe in our society. If someone is hurt call for an ambulance.

  • Protect yourself from others

Stay away from people who are not safe, who engage in dangerous behavior or who you know are making bad choices in their lives, regardless of who they are. Friends and family who are dangerous or are associating with dangerous people will only bring those dangerous situations to you.

Today, life is becoming more dangerous, it is up to each of us to create a safe space for ourselves. You have the power of choice. Choose the right path and your safety will be ensured.

Make your safety a priority.

Getting It Together

Getting It Together

Recently many people have told me they are working on getting it together.

It’s a funny phrase. What are they getting together? And once ‘it’ is together what are they going to do with ‘it’?

I am assuming–because I haven’t really asked anyone–that by it they mean their lives.

I assume this because a few have told me I have ‘it’ together. I didn’t think they were talking about my hair.

Apparently many people seem to be working on getting their lives together because they feel they don’t have it together.

These are my thoughts on that:

  • No one really has it together because life is ever changing.
  • Just when you think everything is perfect and right, life will throw you a curveball.
  • If you had everything in life together and you had no changes, you would be bored.
  • It’s really about your attitude towards life and not your aptitude to get life together.
  • Gratitude towards what is going right is better than worrying about what could go wrong.

So relax, enjoy all the parts of your together and not so together life.

When we are gone no one is going to remember us for how well we had it together but for how much we enjoyed life and those around us!

What I Know For Sure

What I Know For Sure

I just recently finished reading Oprah Winfrey’s book “What I Know For Sure” and was surprised by how many of her thoughts mirrored my own.

Now, I do not agree with Ms. Winfrey’s politics but Oprah has been a strong voice in my head for most of my life.

I watched Oprah when I was a young girl and she was on WGN News in Chicago. When she later became a talk show host on her own show I was a devoted follower.

I always enjoyed her show, her compassion for people and her celebration of people just for being who they were.

Oprah has a rare gift of asking the right questions and being brave enough to respectfully ask the tough questions of people, situations and of herself.

In her book, Oprah describes many things she has discovered over the years and things she has come to accept about herself and life in general.

The book resonated with me because as we get older most of us realize very clearly who we are, what we want from life and how we got to the point we are in.

Like Oprah I am grateful for this journey of my life and am looking forward to what is to come.

So what I know for sure…is how very lucky I have been to live in this country during this time surrounded by the people that have shaped my life.

A good book I would recommend to empty nesters and beyond.

Thank you Ms. Winfrey for your voice all these years!

Release The Power of Your Intentions

Release The Power of Your Intentions

The new year is all about starting with a clean slate, setting goals for the year and looking forward to all the opportunities before us.

Soon though, all our good intentions go off by the wayside and we fall back into the same routines. Goals we were so excited about are pushed to the back burner to simmer for another 12 months.

Why does this happen?

I think it is because we get caught up in other people’s intentions and we lose focus on our own.

Or we want to reach too many goals too fast and when it becomes difficult we give in to the old ways.

But the power is always within us to reach any goal we want, if we go about it the right way.

The right way is different for everyone. So I am not going to pretend I have the magic formula for that.

What I will say is that each one of us should not give away the power of our intentions by spending all our time walking around our goals instead of moving directly to them.

Here are a few pointers:

  1. Set your goal and set a time frame to reach it.
  2. Break your goal down into manageable steps you will need to take to reach your goal.
  3. If your steps are too big break them down further. (Remember some steps may take several days, weeks or months to achieve!)
  4. Set a daily intention that will move you towards that 1st step.
  5. Once you accomplish your first milestone, set a daily intention that will move you towards that 2nd step and so on.
  6. Make sure your daily intention is always moving you forward towards the steps for your goal.

The last point is the most critical. If your daily intention is not moving you forward then why is that your intention?

Do not be afraid to succeed! This is your year of forward momentum–you just have to release the power of your intention!

Setting Up Your Year

Setting Up Your Year

Before I set my intentions for this new year–I thought it would be important to chose a guiding principle for the year.

Some people refer to it as ‘your word for the year’ that will serve as a umbrella for all you intend to accomplish.

A guiding principle is not the ‘what’ you want to accomplish this year but the ‘how’ you want to pursue your ‘what’.

Here are a few good questions to ask yourself to come up with your guiding principle:

  1. How can your attitude help you reach the goals you are thinking of achieving this year?
  2. How will you find happiness as you work towards your goals?
  3. How will you implement your daily intentions to move you forward step by step?

I thought about this long and hard to be able to keep the momentum from last year into this one.

I found that I had the most success reaching goals when I kept things simple and used common sense to guide me through the difficult or confusing times.

So I chose two guiding principles for 2019: simplicity and prudence.

Simplicity, of course, means doing things in the easiest way possible. That sometimes takes a little thinking and planning time.

Simplicity does not necessarily mean fast–remember that trying to do something quickly often results in having to do double work because we decided to cut corners.

And prudence means to do things with caution and care and forethought. So again good planning to avoid making things harder than it needs to be.

We live in a fast paced, run around, world. But it doesn’t always have to be this way.

Give yourself some time to develop your ‘How’, write it down where you can see it every day, and use your how as your guidepost for 2019.

There are endless opportunities and possibilities to help you reach your goals. Set yourself up for success!

How To Master 2019

How To Master 2019

Happy New Year! This will not be a post about New Years Resolutions.

If you made some resolutions, great! If you didn’t, it’s ok because you can resolve to do anything you want any day of the year–it’s all good.

I met all my resolutions last year but only because I was ready to make the changes I did. And that is the key.

You have to want it. And you have to set your intentions every day towards your goals.

So here is how to master 2019:

  1. Know exactly what you want. If you don’t know what that is–that is not confusion about your life, that is fear. You know what you want…it’s right inside of you.
  1. Confront the fear. If you are afraid to fail or to let someone down you need to get over it. If you don’t confront what is holding you back you cannot move forward.
  1. Set your intention every day. Intend, in writing and out loud, what you are going to do today to get you one step closer to your goal. This is a marathon not a sprint.

That’s it. It really is easy to take these steps. Keep it simple.

That does not mean that everyday will be easy, but it does mean that whatever life throws at you this year-you will keep moving forward.

The new year gives us new opportunities and a mental fresh start–make the most of it! And make 2019 your year–master it!