This last post in the Decluttering the Mind, Body and Soul series hits very close to home for me, because it is so fresh. It is a constant work I do with myself.
I want to talk to you about decluttering your soul and this is going to be hard. As any new or experienced empty nester knows, one of the hardest things to do is let go.
Letting go of our children as they started their own lives was hard enough but letting go of some of the baggage we carry around in our soul is even harder!
Our soul, in my eyes, is where we carry our value systems and beliefs. It also houses our fears, anxieties and burdens. It is a hard organ of the body to explain–since no doctor has ever found it, no person has ever given it to another, but we know its there by the pain and joy it causes.
In the end of it all–our soul is our essence. And we should keep it as pure as we can, if possible–and of course I mean, decluttered.
As we declutter our physical world we have to find a way to declutter our soul as well. This is extremely hard because we can’t just fill up a box of stuff, put it in the back of our car, and drop it off at Goodwill.
Decluttering the soul takes hard work and will sometimes cause pain. But we deserve a clean and light soul! We deserve it.
The hard work is internal. It is a conversation and conviction we take on with ourselves and sometimes with a higher power. I call my higher power God, but you may think of it differently.
So here is what I have been doing to declutter my soul–it is an ongoing process–and one I will have to remind myself of to do continually as the soul clutters itself once again:
Step 1 : Forgive
Forgive the people, the circumstances and memories, and your own errors in judgement that have hurt you. Easy to say, not easy to do. It is painful because we are letting go of something strong that we have been holding onto tightly.
Sometimes we are so hurt by a person or situation and the other players involved are not even aware that they have caused you pain or discomfort. We carry this around in our soul building up fears and anxieties of it happening again–with the same person or with others.
It weighs us down and darkens our spirit, making it a cold and lonely place to carry. But if we forgive–our soul feels a little brighter and lighter bit by bit.
Step 2: Let Go
This is even harder than forgiving sometimes! We have to let the pain and the discomfort go. We have to believe that people do not hurt us intentionally and we need to move on from where we are with a clean soul and be open to new experiences.
We need to know that the hurts we have endured have nothing to do with our worth! People do not hurt us because we are bad, we get hurt because our beliefs and value systems do not match those of the people that caused the hurt.
Note: This does not mean, and I certainly do not believe, that we should accept the hurts and abuses of others. It just simply means we should forgive them for thinking they can hurt us and I firmly believe we should separate ourselves from those folks (permanently, if possible).
Letting go also means forgiving yourself for the hurt and giving it to your higher power. The higher power will take care of it and you can begin to move on.
Once your soul is lighter you will begin to see things differently and it will open you up for better, stronger and more positive experiences to fill you up with!
So do the work–forgive, let go and love the person and the soul you are! You deserve it!
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