Your Story

Your Story

Our pasts define us. For good or not. Each one of us holds knowledge of our lives that no one else knows about, sometimes inconsequential things that do not matter to others, but make us each unique.

It is our story. The one we have written in our heads about who we are, where we are in life, and how we ended up here.

It is fascinating to listen to others describe their lot in life and how they are continuing to perpetuate those things they say they are against.

Politicians do this everyday. Exploiting every detail of their lives, real or imagined, that they can to appeal to others…to obtain a vote.

It is their story.

Our friends and family members do this also. Reworking stories until they fit into their needs at the time.

Their story.

Looking into your past is good, if you can do so as an objective observer. If you can accept it as the reality that it is and understand that our past does not have to be our future.

Life and time is very forgiving. Each day we have the opportunity to change, to turn over a new leaf, to begin again.

A chance to change your story.

Dwelling on the past and using it as an excuse not to move forward is what holds back most people.

They spend their lives and their energy in holding grudges over perceived wrongs, in finding ways to exact revenge or in creating havoc in other people’s lives.

Trying to change other people’s story.

These people do not understand why they don’t move forward. They are stuck. Hypocrites, absurd and sad.

But today is a new day, and you can use your past as a learning tool to propel yourself forward.

Use your past experience to be the best you, you can be today. Enjoy the present. And the future will take care of itself.

Don’t let your story hold you back.

What I Know For Sure

What I Know For Sure

I just recently finished reading Oprah Winfrey’s book “What I Know For Sure” and was surprised by how many of her thoughts mirrored my own.

Now, I do not agree with Ms. Winfrey’s politics but Oprah has been a strong voice in my head for most of my life.

I watched Oprah when I was a young girl and she was on WGN News in Chicago. When she later became a talk show host on her own show I was a devoted follower.

I always enjoyed her show, her compassion for people and her celebration of people just for being who they were.

Oprah has a rare gift of asking the right questions and being brave enough to respectfully ask the tough questions of people, situations and of herself.

In her book, Oprah describes many things she has discovered over the years and things she has come to accept about herself and life in general.

The book resonated with me because as we get older most of us realize very clearly who we are, what we want from life and how we got to the point we are in.

Like Oprah I am grateful for this journey of my life and am looking forward to what is to come.

So what I know for sure…is how very lucky I have been to live in this country during this time surrounded by the people that have shaped my life.

A good book I would recommend to empty nesters and beyond.

Thank you Ms. Winfrey for your voice all these years!

Time Management

Time Management

Time management is one of the hardest skills to develop.

But it is a skill that if mastered will help you accomplish more of the goals you are aiming for.

Many times we have challenges in managing our time because we underestimate the time a project or task will take and because we allow other things to distract and interrupt us.

Here are a few tips that help me manage my time and make the most of every day.

  1. Prioritize your tasks. Making a list of the many things to do will not help you if you don’t indicate in some way which tasks are the most important to complete. Make your list and number it.
  2. Remove distractions. Turn off your phone or the television and complete tasks in an environment conducive to the task at hand.
  3. Complete all important tasks first. Concentrating on one important task at a time and working on it until it is finished before moving on to the next will help you stay focused.
  4. Give yourself the appropriate amount of time for each task. Underestimating the amount of time a task will take and not giving yourself the appropriate amount of time can be self defeating.

Set yourself up for success when managing your time and you will find your tasks and goals will be easier to achieve!

The Time is Yours!

The Time is Yours!

Do you ever wonder what is holding you back?  The reason I hear most often from colleagues and friends is time.

There is never enough time to get all the things done that need to get done.  The end of each day comes too quickly and there are too many things left to do that did not get accomplished.

So people stay up late, run to Wal-mart at 9 o’clock at night, run around trying to make up for the lost time in the day and to get ahead on the next.

The result is that many  people are run down, frazzled and frustrated. And then we get up the next morning, after too little sleep and do it all over again.

What is holding these people back? What is holding you back?

It is not time that is holding us back. Each one of us has the same 24 hours a day that everyone else has.  Why are some people so efficient and happy and accomplished?

It is very simple…and you can already tell what I am going to say. They are organized and have their priorities straight. They do not squander their time. And they value their health, their peace of mind and their priorities.

In the next few blog posts I will examine and revisit some golden ideas on time management, priorities and values. Stay tuned!

For today, I invite you to examine your day and your life. We are half way through January already and many of us have already given up on our plans and resolutions to get organized, get it together, and do things differently this year to get out from under the time crunch that rules our fast paced run around life.

Think about the time wasters in our day–losing track of time in the shower, talking to co-workers around the water cooler, making unnecessary trips to the store, allowing others to dominate our time by volunteering us for tasks that should belong to others.

Then think about the things that are really important to you in your life–the things that provide you with the quality of life you desire and deserve.  And get ready for some life changing ideas to help you take advantage of each day.

The time is yours–make the most of it.

Our Growing Capabilities

Our Growing Capabilities

This time we live in, like never before, provides a new definition of progress.

Progress used to mean to move forward or to advance, as in making things better.

But in this fast paced run around world we live in the definition has begun to change.

Progress, for some, has come to mean that we are not moving forward or we can’t move forward without the assistance of others.

And as the definition has been changing, we as Americans, have given up our capabilities.

That is by design, of course, by those who wish to control the masses.

The masses, are merely a collection of yous and mes. They are groups of people that have believed the story that we “can’t” do or be everything we are capable of being.

Yet if you stop to pay attention and look around our capabilities as humans continues to grow.

In my short 50 years on this earth, for example, we have gone from a box with a dial on the wall as a form of communication to a mini computer that fits in our pocket and that can communicate with people around the world. That was progress.

That progress was made because people refused to believe that their capabilities were insufficient, that through hard work and perseverance progress is made.

With every advance our capabilities grow and we can continue to reach new heights.

In this new year, stretch yourself, don’t buy into the idea that in order to have progress we must give up our capabilities, our ideas, our work ethic, or our values.

Continue to feed your growing capabilities day by day…and enjoy the progress and advances you will make.

Find your path, it is waiting for you.

Release The Power of Your Intentions

Release The Power of Your Intentions

The new year is all about starting with a clean slate, setting goals for the year and looking forward to all the opportunities before us.

Soon though, all our good intentions go off by the wayside and we fall back into the same routines. Goals we were so excited about are pushed to the back burner to simmer for another 12 months.

Why does this happen?

I think it is because we get caught up in other people’s intentions and we lose focus on our own.

Or we want to reach too many goals too fast and when it becomes difficult we give in to the old ways.

But the power is always within us to reach any goal we want, if we go about it the right way.

The right way is different for everyone. So I am not going to pretend I have the magic formula for that.

What I will say is that each one of us should not give away the power of our intentions by spending all our time walking around our goals instead of moving directly to them.

Here are a few pointers:

  1. Set your goal and set a time frame to reach it.
  2. Break your goal down into manageable steps you will need to take to reach your goal.
  3. If your steps are too big break them down further. (Remember some steps may take several days, weeks or months to achieve!)
  4. Set a daily intention that will move you towards that 1st step.
  5. Once you accomplish your first milestone, set a daily intention that will move you towards that 2nd step and so on.
  6. Make sure your daily intention is always moving you forward towards the steps for your goal.

The last point is the most critical. If your daily intention is not moving you forward then why is that your intention?

Do not be afraid to succeed! This is your year of forward momentum–you just have to release the power of your intention!

How To Master 2019

How To Master 2019

Happy New Year! This will not be a post about New Years Resolutions.

If you made some resolutions, great! If you didn’t, it’s ok because you can resolve to do anything you want any day of the year–it’s all good.

I met all my resolutions last year but only because I was ready to make the changes I did. And that is the key.

You have to want it. And you have to set your intentions every day towards your goals.

So here is how to master 2019:

  1. Know exactly what you want. If you don’t know what that is–that is not confusion about your life, that is fear. You know what you want…it’s right inside of you.
  1. Confront the fear. If you are afraid to fail or to let someone down you need to get over it. If you don’t confront what is holding you back you cannot move forward.
  1. Set your intention every day. Intend, in writing and out loud, what you are going to do today to get you one step closer to your goal. This is a marathon not a sprint.

That’s it. It really is easy to take these steps. Keep it simple.

That does not mean that everyday will be easy, but it does mean that whatever life throws at you this year-you will keep moving forward.

The new year gives us new opportunities and a mental fresh start–make the most of it! And make 2019 your year–master it!