At the beginning of the year I made some New Year’s resolutions that were meant to be finally kept, after years of resolutions that did not last through the last frost.
I tried to keep it simple this time and these were my resolutions in January:
- Be the healthiest ME I can be
- Organize my life so I have more: space, time, money and happiness.
And so far, the beginning of June–6 months in–I’ve kept my resolutions.
Being the healthiest Me I can be has been easier than I thought it was. Studying nutrition has helped me, but just being aware of the goal: being healthy and not giving into the temptations that others bring has been a huge game changer in this area.
I just did not allow myself to be swayed by people giving gifts of food, or feel obligated to eat at social events. I ate in small portions when tempted and learned to say “no, thank you.”
Over the last 6 months, I’ve been eating better and I have lost weight. I have been exercising more and am learning to do yoga, so have become more flexible and stronger.
I am not superwoman (yet) but my clothes are fitting better, and I am sleeping better–so day by day I am getting healthier.
Organizing my life so I have more space, time, money and happiness has also been going well. Mostly because I have slowed down.
I am taking my time doing the things that need to get done and that I want to do.
Again, I decided it was not my obligation to meet everyone’s expectations of what I should do, when I should do it and who I should do it with.
I’ve turned down many social invitation and gave myself permission to say “no–thank you.”
And somehow I am more organized with my time, I am getting more of the important things done and I am saving money in the process because I am not running around buying things I don’t need to make my life easier–because you know, –I’ve made my life easier.
And while all this progress is wonderful and I am so proud of myself. This post is really not about my progress. I want to talk about how reaching resolutions really makes others angry.
It is amazing to me how one person’s failure to reach their goals, in this case their New Year’s resolutions, makes other people–often the ones that are supposed to be the closest to them–happy.
If you are asked and you actually share your resolutions–some people make it their mission to tell you all the ways in which you will fail. They can enumerate all the challenges that stand in your way.
So reaching your resolutions (or your goals) requires a person to not worry about what other people’s opinions are.
I know it may seem obvious–although it took me 50 years to figure out–that it really doesn’t matter what other people think–even the people that are close to you.
Ultimately–when I am happy–the people closest to me are happy as well. Reaching my resolutions and continuing to grow with them has opened up a whole new way of thinking.
If you are wanting to reach your goals and continue to grow this is what I would suggest you do:
- Make sure your goals align with what will make YOU happy
- Take yourself out of situations that do not help you meet your goals
- Ignore negative people
- Take your time and keep moving forward.
I am learning what I think I have known all along…taking things slowly but in the right direction will help me reach the outcome I am looking for. Other people do not have my goals in mind when going about their lives. And we have a limited number of hours a day and days in our lives–we’d better make them count.
What obstacles are you struggling with to meet your goals? How do you allow others to sabotage your progress? Write a comment below or send me an email at emptynestsavvy.com.
Reach for your goals today!