If I have learned anything in these first 50 years of my life is that you cannot have peace when you are at war–war with ourselves or war with others.
My dad’s favorite thing on his Christmas list each year when I was growing up–and well into my adulthood–was Peace.
We’d say: “What do you want for Christmas dad?”
And he would always say “Peace”.
It took me a long time to understand what he meant–but I did get it about 10 years ago. And from the moment I finally figured out what my dad meant, I wanted the same thing.
Our world today is filled with strife, anger and hatred.
There is no peace globally or politically or even among religious groups that you would think would be all about peace.
Yet there are people, families and community units that are peaceful. And peace is achievable.
Let me tell you how to achieve some peace in your life but first, let me define what I see as peace.
Peace means that you separate yourself (and your family) from negativity, chaos, worry, and deception.
That doesn’t mean these things are not all around us–but that you do not allow them to effect you.
- Wake up each day and embrace the opportunities the day has for you. Be positive. If today is a difficult day, know that your contribution to the world is felt through the ripple effects you leave in your wake. Smile at someone today, thank someone today, go out of your way for someone else–it does have an impact.
- Remove toxic people from your life. I’ve written about this before because I believe it is so important. You do not have to associate with people who are toxic to you. Wish them well, block their phone number, remove them from your Social Media and stop, when possible, from spending unnecessary time with them.
- Mind your own business. Take care of yourself and those closest to you. Avoid getting involved in petty arguments or hard feelings with people that don’t matter in your life. Those people are “peace busters”. Don’t stir the pot, as my dad would say, it only brings the stink out of what is in the pot.
- Live with integrity and honesty. Do your job, pay your bills on time, be truthful and honest in your dealings with others, take care of your responsibilities. These things will keep a positive and protective aura around you.
Peace is achievable. Peace lets you sleep well at night, keeps you safe from harm in an uncertain world and can spread to those you love.
The choice is ours to make, peace is always there but each person must want it badly enough to turn away from the chaos.
For the love of peace–give yourself and those you love this gift. Thanks dad!