Reaching Resolutions

Reaching Resolutions

At the beginning of the year I made some New Year’s resolutions that were meant to be finally kept, after years of resolutions that did not last through the last frost.

I tried to keep it simple this time and these were my resolutions in January:

  1. Be the healthiest ME I can be
  2. Organize my life so I have more: space, time, money and happiness.

And so far, the beginning of June–6 months in–I’ve kept my resolutions.

Being the healthiest Me I can be has been easier than I thought it was.  Studying nutrition has helped me, but just being aware of the goal: being healthy and not giving into the temptations that others bring has been a huge game changer in this area.

I just did not allow myself to be swayed by people giving gifts of food, or feel obligated to eat at social events. I ate in small portions when tempted and learned to say “no, thank you.”

Over the last 6 months, I’ve been eating better and I have lost weight. I have been exercising more and am learning to do yoga, so have become more flexible and stronger.

I am not superwoman (yet) but my clothes are fitting better, and I am sleeping better–so day by day I am getting healthier.

 

Organizing my life so I have more space, time, money and happiness has also been going well.  Mostly because I have slowed down.

I am taking my time doing the things that need to get done and that I want to do.

Again, I decided it was not my obligation to meet everyone’s expectations of what I should do, when I should do it and who I should do it with.

I’ve turned down many social invitation and gave myself permission to say “no–thank you.”

And somehow I am more organized with my time, I am getting more of the important things done and I am saving money in the process because I am not running around buying things I don’t need to make my life easier–because you know, –I’ve made my life easier.

And while all this progress is wonderful and I am so proud of myself. This post is really not about my progress.  I want to talk about how reaching resolutions really makes others angry.

It is amazing to me how one person’s failure to reach their goals, in this case their New Year’s resolutions, makes other people–often the ones that are supposed to be the  closest to them–happy.

If you are asked and you actually share your resolutions–some people make it their mission to tell you all the ways in which you will fail.  They can enumerate all the challenges that stand in your way.

So reaching your resolutions (or your goals) requires a person to not worry about what other people’s opinions are.

I know it may seem obvious–although it took me 50 years to figure out–that it really doesn’t matter what other people think–even the people that are close to you.

Ultimately–when I am happy–the people closest to me are happy as well. Reaching my resolutions and continuing to grow with them has opened up a whole new way of thinking.

If you are wanting to reach your goals and continue to grow this is what I would suggest you do:

  1. Make sure your goals align with what will make YOU happy
  2. Take yourself out of situations that do not help you meet your goals
  3. Ignore negative people
  4. Take your time and keep moving forward.

I am learning what I think I have known all along…taking things slowly but in the right direction will help me reach the outcome I am looking for. Other people do not have my goals in mind when going about their lives. And we have a limited number of hours a day and days in our lives–we’d better make them count.

What obstacles are you struggling with to meet your goals? How do you allow others to sabotage your progress?  Write a comment below or send me an email at emptynestsavvy.com.

Reach for your goals today!

 

Getting Re-Organized

Getting Re-Organized

Developing the life we want is HARD work!  The first 3 months of the year have passed so quickly!  And I thought I would have my whole life planned out by now!

Of course my illusions of grandeur have gotten the best of me yet again.  Thank goodness life is a long one!

I can say that the first three months of the year has been a productive one.  I am still on track with my New Year’s Resolutions and this is a good time to take stock and evaluate what is working and what is not working.

I am happy to say that a lot is working–in order to be better, though, we have to be honest about what is not working.  What is not working is I am trying to accomplish everything at once. And while I am not failing–in order to keep up the pace now is when I have to really get re-organized!

I am going to have to truly map out “The Plan”–as I’ve dubbed the rest of our lives…

I thought I was being easy on myself when I only gave myself two New Year’s Resolutions:

  1. Be the healthiest ME I can be
  2. Organize my life so I have more: space, time, money and happiness

These resolutions–have translated into some specific goals–that are going to take longer than I expected.  It is going to be a long road but I am looking forward to every step!

  1. Being the healthiest Me I can be has led me to:

Researching healthy lifestyles, fitness and lifestyle diseases and longevity studies.  That’s a lot of fancy words just to say that I joined the gym, am looking to learn to cook healthier meals, make sure I get enough sleep, lose weight and get strong.

In doing those things, I stumbled upon Health Coaching School of which I am enthusiastically a student and am not just improving my knowledge and health but helping those close to me as well.

2. Organizing my life so I have more: space, time, money and happiness has led me to:

Decluttering my house, my life, my schedule, my social media, my shopping habits…etc. It has led me down the road to making the right choices for me and my family regardless of what others may think and surprisingly–that has made me feel lighter and free-er and yes, dare I say very happy!

In my New Year’s post one of my pieces of advice was that no matter what your goals or resolution is the most important part of succeeding is to begin. Put one step in front of the other and keep moving forward.

In order to do all the things I want to do and keep up this happy momentum, I need to get re-organized to keep it going.

So here is my plan–maybe you can use these ideas to help you reach your goals also:

  1. Keep the big picture front and center.  
  2. Make daily, small, reachable goals.
  3. Accept setbacks.
  4. Look for other options when there are setbacks.
  5. And then take the next step.  

This is an exciting time being in the Empty Nest–our kids are expanding their world and we are expanding ours–we are enjoying the ride and moving forward!

How are your goals and resolutions coming along? Is it time to start over and get organized toward your big picture? Let me know what things have slowed you down or stopped your progress on something you really want to achieve.

No matter where you are in your goals–remember each day brings new opportunities–and have fun!

The End of January

The End of January

I cannot believe how quickly January has passed!  Today is the last day of January and I am so proud because so far I have kept my promises to myself.

If you read my post on my New Year’s Resolutions you know I kept it simple this year in that I tried to be true to my own needs and wants.  Basically I want to be the healthiest I can be and to get organized.

I don’t just mean organizing my closets, I mean organizing my LIFE to have more space, time, money and happiness.  So far, 30 days in I’m getting the job done.

What’s different this year? I found a reason behind making my resolutions.  And my reasons are purely selfish ones. Not selfish in the sense that they would hurt anyone else, but when thinking what I wanted to change in my life I concentrated purely on myself.

I wanted to make changes that I could measure–and not in pounds but in outcomes. And I accepted the fact that changes in one part of my life would create changes in other parts of my life.

I am doing the things I love: Reading, writing, learning new things, relaxing in the life I have created and enjoying my family and friends. I am also discovering things about myself and all those around me.

Getting healthier has been quite a learning experience.  I am learning all about nutrition and exercise–something that has interested me for a long time–and learning options for healthier living.

Decluttering my house has been a journey of really finding the things that I truly use and love to surround me at home and in making these changes it has made me feel lighter and free.

These small changes have already made an impact in my life.  I have noticed that as I have become healthier in body and home my spirit is also becoming healthier.  I no longer accept people around me with a negative attitude. And It happened quite by accident.

A person I work with began with her daily litany of complaints and I simply smiled at her and walked away. It was very nice not to have to hear about her views of what is wrong in her world. After all it’s not my world.  My world is looking quite rosy!

So today at the end of January, although the days may pass quickly let’s plan to enjoy each one of the them! I hope your New Year’s Resolutions or any changes you want to make in your life are going strong. Don’t give up! Your best life is in front of you!

What changes are you making in 2018 to make your life healthier and better? How are you overcoming roadblocks to your happiness? Post a comment below!

Have a great day and have fun!

Have a SAVVY New Year!

Have a SAVVY New Year!

Happy 2018! The New Year brings with its very name the promise of a fresh start, a new beginning, an opportunity for change.

If you are an empty nester, a soon to be empty nester, or if you are a one person or one couple family, the beginning of the year gives us an open door to start formulating THE PLAN.

THE PLAN is what I call “building a new life”.  Not that the old life was bad in any way–it is just time for a change.  And creating a new life takes time–much more than one year–so our resolutions should put us on our way to that new life…not just change one aspect about ourselves.

Here are 4 things I am going to implement and that I think you should think about as we make New Year Resolutions or begin THE PLAN:

  1. Have a reason for the change
  2. Make changes in your life that can be measured
  3. Understand that a change in one part of your life will change other parts of your life…and
  4. Begin:  take that first step and keep moving forward!

So my -every year in most recent memory- resolutions have been:  

  1. Lose 10 pounds
  2. Get in Shape
  3. Be a better listener
  4. Organize my house
  5. Get my finances in order

My resolutions never had a reason behind them. And so, year after year, I failed to reach the resolutions I had set for myself.

Why do we do this to ourselves?  I really don’t know.  What I do know is that we can be better in choosing resolutions/plans that will actually help us meet our real goals. We can set ourselves up for success and happiness instead of setting ourselves up for failure!

Following the 4 steps I outlined above, my resolutions look much different:

  1. Be the healthiest ME I can be
  2. Organize my life so I have more: space, time, money and happiness.

Easy right?  Probably not–but they are clear ideas of changing the somethings in my life to make my future life better.  It is a simple way to guide yourself to where you want to be.  Find the reasons you want to build your life the way you want it.  If  you actually have a reason to change–then change is more likely–and it will lead us to the freedom to create the life we want!

Freedom after all is what will help us to build a better life, faster and smarter.The key to that freedom is within us.  

Turn the key, open the door and take that first step toward the life you want.

What changes do you want to make this year that will lead you to your ultimate life?  How do those changes fit in together? Comment below and tell me what you think!

And join me next time, when we will examine the power of PERSPECTIVE!

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