One of the good things about being older now is that it gives you a great deal of perspective. Things that seemed so important a few years ago are not as important now.
In the end, what most of us want is to be happy. I say “most” because there are a certain group of people who do not value being happy–and they thrive on making everyone around them as unhappy as they are.
Here are my six steps to happiness–starting with the unhappy people around us.
- Stay away from unhappy people!
There is nothing worse than hanging out or being around unhappy people. You know who they are–everything is bad, they are bitter about anyone else’s success, calm, or good fortune and they do everything they can to bring you down into pity-land along with them.
Stay away from people like this–they will spread their negativity to you and make you feel down down down. Not fun!
- Let go of the past!
We all make mistakes. In fact, we are supposed to make mistakes. That is how we learn and grow. We are also meant to encounter many types of people in this world–that do not have good intentions toward us–this too is so we learn and grow.
Whatever we may have done or has been done to us–we need to leave the past in the past. It will not make us happy to relive bad moments or to treat people in our present badly as if they are going to repeat some hurt from our past. Get over it–and let it go.
- Get out of bed and DO something!
Sleeping late or laying about all day, even when we feel “tired” can bring us down. Get up, fix the bed and get moving. Getting the blood moving in our bodies make us naturally feel happy–it is the endorphins!
Make a schedule for yourself in which you get up and go to sleep at about the same time everyday and in between do stuff that will help you reach your goals or bring you joy.
- Get organized!
Disorganization, clutter and chaos bring unhappiness. Get your houses in order. Not only is physical clutter and messiness a downer–but so is being disorganized at work, in your relationships and in your financial life.
It is all in your power to fix–fix it! When everything is in it’s place: stuff, people, goals and money–you will be calm and content and you will feel happy.
- Give to others!
It is better to give than to receive. It is! It always makes us feel better because it serves a purpose for us. When we give our things away it serves to help us get organized in things we no longer need but that can serve someone else.
When we help others in good deeds it reminds us that we are in a good place where we have the ability to help others and are not in need ourselves. And it makes us happy.
- Give to yourself!
By giving to yourself I don’t mean go on a massive shopping spree. I mean give yourself what you need–and what you want–that you know will be in your best interests and make you happy.
Stay away from negative people and situations. Give of yourself but don’t let others take advantage of your goodness. Live in the present and in a space that is clean and nourishing to you.
Happiness is not something that is far away or unattainable. It is right there in front of you–in your power. You just have to decide that happiness is what you want. Go for it!
What steps are you going to take TODAY to be happy? Comment below or feel free to send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.