Marriage is hard work. Some people make it look easy.
I’ve been reading a few books lately about people with successful, happy marriages and their secrets.
I have also spent some time thinking about people in my life who have had long, successful marriages and what have made it so.
There are two things that are present in all these examples: Trust and Communication.
Sounds pretty easy and foundational right?
I was amazed when I asked a few friends what trust and communication looked like in a marriage to find how many struggled to come up with a definition or example.
Here are my thoughts. Trust in marriage is simple to define if you have it. It means that every aspect of your life is safe in the hands of the other person.
That means that each half of the couple looks out for the other physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.
And here’s the best part of trust in successful marriages: this trust is given and received automatically by both parties without having to discuss it, measure it or ask for it.
It just is.
Communication, likewise, in loving and successful marriages is almost a natural extension of the marriage itself.
It means the couple is willing to communicate about anything and everything. It does not mean the couple has to agree.
But both are free to express themselves verbally or non verbally and know that the other will respect and accept their opinion.
It just is.
That is what makes it not hard to define, but hard to achieve. It takes time to develop and it takes practice and work to keep it consistent so that a marriage will stand the test of time, trials and testaments.
Making the most of your marriage is a worthwhile effort and looking back years from now to see the success and strength in your relationship is a blessing.
And it all begins and ends the same same way: with trust and communication.